As a woman, you may have experienced toxic masculinity at least once in your life.
You often come across men who exhibit traits of toxic masculinity when you’re in your soft feminine phase. Being someone whose softness is mistaken for weakness proves that masculinity and femininity can intertwine well. However, the world seems to turn upside down when a man tries to prove his manhood.
I knew someone who spent four vulnerable years of her life trying to fight the patriarchal power. Her boyfriend back then would misuse his masculine energy. This relationship was a stain on a broken glass, and the young woman was caught in a whirlwind of emotions she had never felt before.
Soon, the love turned cold, and all he gave her were teary-eyed experiences. He would grab her wrist tight to show his control over her.
Sometimes, he would run his fingers through her hair to caress her softness. She would often feel weak in her knees and fall under his magical, yet toxic spells.
While she had a million reasons to give up on his brutality, she chose to stay and turn the chaos into bundles of joy. She was passionate and filled with love. Her former boyfriend would turn extremely violent and throw random things out of rage, but she knew exactly how to calm his storms—and could soften his heart just by her gentle touch. He slowly learned what abandonment meant when he discovered more of her selfless side. Constantly feeling abandoned by her, he would cry like a baby when she was away and hated it when someone laid eyes on her. He tried to keep her close at all times, unable to bear the idea of losing her. Often, he would feel threatened by her irresistible beauty and felt that only he could relish the privilege of having her. But he took her godliness for granted.
As if breaking glass on the floor wasn’t enough to prove his masculinity, he never learned to let go of his weaknesses. Forgiveness came knocking at his door too many times; his ladylove was no less than an angel. She was unaware that her status soon diminished to a submissive female, holding no boundaries to love out of fear and pity.
The woman was too young to experience the fright of his dangerous masculinity. She was fragile as a leaf and did not want the world to turn against her, but she succeeded in defending her femininity. The woman who had her head in space connected with what true masculinity is, but little did she know, she was exposed to only male toxicity. Unfortunately, she assumed that was the only truth and reality of every manhood.
